Get Your Big BUT Out Of Your Way

Your BUT May Be Stopping You From Getting The Success You Want.

Use This Simple Mind Hack AND Achieve More Success

 

You may remember a car commercial that played awhile ago, then again you may not because most advertising doesn’t work.  I remember the commercial, but I couldn’t tell you what car they were advertising.  (did you catch how the But worked in that last sentence).

Here is the part of the commercial that I want to draw you attention to, the concept of the commercial was to advertise all the features that come standard with the car.   It show a nice couple going into a Chinese restaurant and ordering Sweet OR Sour Chicken and by the look on their faces it just tasted flat out nasty.  They looked at each other and said I like AND better.   Meaning, for the food, Sweet And Sour Chicken, and for the car it included this feature AND that feature AND the other feature.

Well I too, like AND better.

When you replace the word BUT with the work AND it automatically changes the feeling of the statement.

Try to use the word AND, followed by a negative statement.

“Yes honey I really want our relationship to work out AND I just don’t see how it will.”

Sound funky doesn’t it?

That’s because when you use the word AND it naturally wants to follow the feeling of the previous statement, where the BUT is going to reverse the feeling of the previous statement.

That same sentence using a normal BUT statement and then the more powerful AND statement.

“Yes honey I really want our relationship to work, BUT I just don’t know how to do it.”

“Yes honey I really want our relationship to work AND I won’t give up until I find a way.”

Or how about this to your kids.

“I really want you to go to college also, BUT there is no way I can afford to do it”

“I really want you to go to college also AND if we work together I am sure we figure out a way”

The AND statement leaves the conversation on a positive note and both parties know that they are working towards a goal.

Where a But statement eliminates future effort, the And statement pushes future effort.

What about your subconscious mind?

It really isn’t much different, it is just related to your self talk instead of interpersonal communications.

Look at the difference in self talk…

“I really need to lose weight, BUT I have failed every other time.”mind

“I really need to lose weight AND this time I will figure out how to do it right.”

or…

“I really want the freedom of owning my own business, BUT I am not smart enough.”

“I really want the freedom of owning my own business AND I will do whatever I need to do to get the knowledge to make it work”

or…

“Of course I want to go to my high school reunion, but I can’t afford to take the time off work”

“Of course I want to go to my high school reunion AND I will see if there in way to make it work with my work schedule.”

The BUT statement lets your subconscious mind off the hook, it reinforces past failures, pain or future fears and the subconscious mind will default into protection mode and have you avoid the activity.

Whereas the AND statement lets or your subconscious mind know that there is more work to be done.  It gives your subconscious mind a direct task to work on so it does not default to the standard “avoid pain” programming.  The power of your subconscious mind is once it is given a task to work on, it will continue to work on it until it finds an answer or you change the task.

What if it something that you just simply don’t want to do?

Then it is simple, let you no be no and don’t try to sugar coat it.

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Possibility Vs Probability Thinking

Possibility Vs Probability Thinking: The Fight Between Average and Exceptional

In my business mastermind group we are doing a study of Napolean Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”.  One of the first ideas he talks about is, thoughts are things, and words have power.

So I decided to do a series on this subject matter and discuss limiting beliefs and language that are holding so many of us back from achieving what we want in life.  As well as the thoughts and language that achieves use.

 

Steps To Living In The Possibility Mindset

1)  Become crystal clear at what it is you want.

2)  Find a mentor who has already achieved what you want.

3)  Become a student and study what they did.

4)  Take action and massive action at that.

5)  Be committed to the process and never quite

For a more in-depth look at these steps check out my goal setting series starting here.

If Your Desire Has Never Been Done Before

One thing that history has proven is that the mere fact that something has never been done before in no way mandates that it never will be done.  Every great deed was once done for the first time and the person who accomplished it will always be remembered.  Here are a couple of examples:

Roger Banister: The first man to run a four minute mile.  Before he succeeded is was accepted wisdom that the heart would explode if someone ran that fast.  Since Roger proved it possible, thousands of people had accomplished thewright brothers same feat, but Roger Banister will always been known as the first.

The Wright Brothers:  You know the story they were the first to create flight.  Nobody thought it could be done, but when their invention lifted off the ground for mere seconds it ushered in a possibility mindset that has revolutionized the world.

Christopher Columbus:  While prevailing beliefs, at the time, that the earth was flat, Columbus convinced the Queen a boat full of sailor to set out and find a quicker trade route to China.  While he failed in that, he is credited for discovering “The New World” and showing the earth was a sphere.

These are just a few examples of numerous stories that I could of used.  If you choose to go down this path, know it will be difficult, know it will be worth it and know The Three Stages of Truth, yes what you seek is truth. The truth that something is possible.

According to German Philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer, all truth goes through three stages:

1)  Ridicule

2)  Violent opposition

3)  Acceptance as self evident

Now go “Kill Your Fucking Bear”.

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Goal Setting Step 4 – The Secret To Massive Action

The Secret to Massive Action For Goal Achievement

Wow – this is the final installment of my goal setting series.   So in  Step 1 we discussed taking inventory of where you are and writing the story of your perfect year, in  Step 2 we discussed how to turn that Perfect Year story into S.M.A.R.T. goals, and Step 3 covered the emotion of goal setting and how to get leverage on your goals.  Now to the final step we are going to discuss managing your goals daily and I mean managing both the daily activity as well as your mindset and attitude.

Jeff Olson says “It’s not the how you do something, it the HOW YOU DO the How You Do”.  What he basically means is what is the mindset and attitude behind the actions.

If you study self improvement at all you have probably heard about the Law of Attraction.  Many trainers make this seem to be almost a mystical force, a genie in the lamp, that you simple state what you want and it just appears for you.  Why that sound really awesome, I don’t believe that is how it works, but I do believe in the Law of Attraction as a matter fact I think it can be shown scientifically.

The Biology Of The Law Of Attraction And Goal Achievement!

In this brief 5 minute video I will explain how parts of The Law of Attraction can be explained through actual biology and the Reticular Activating System. I will tell you what it is, prove to you that it works and show you how you can harness its power to help you achieve the Results you want in your life.

 

Your Daily Action Plan For Goal Achievement.

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Goal Setting Step 3 – Get Leverage

Get Leverage On Your Goals

This is the third step to power goal setting and achieving.  If you haven’t already read Step 1 and Step 2, please read them first by clicking on them.

Making a goal is the easier part.  The difficult part is managing the daily activities or decisions that it takes to make your goal a reality.   That is because any worthy goal requires change at some level and change often is synonymous with pain.

You have to be prepared for the disappointments that come when you step out and try to do something you have never done before.  Any change will come with resistance, sometimes the resistance is your own belief systems and habits, sometimes the resistance factors are friends and family, or it can be something totally different.  Either way resistance will come and to succeed you have to know what do when it happens.  Jim Rohn refers to this as “disciplining your disappointments”.

I recommend 5 steps to be prepared for disappointment.

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Goal Setting Part 2, Get SMART

 

Goal Setting Part 2, Get SMART

If you haven’t read part one, or done the exercises in part one please do them first.  It will help you in this section so much.  You can see part one here.

Great now that we have taken inventory of our last year, future paced our next year to see it’s greatness and took a serious look at the balance we have in life it is time to talk about the actual mechanics of goal setting.

To Set Goals You Need To Be Grateful

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Goal Setting Part 1, Getting Real

Goal Setting Part 1, Getting Real

Have you ever set a goal, or New Years Resolution, only to fall short of achieving your desired result?  Why do you think this is?  Maybe you didn’t actually want the result.  Maybe you simply weren’t willing to pay the price to achieve it, or maybe you didn’t know how to get the result.  At different times these issues and many others may have derailed you from what you want.

In this series I will share with you what I have learned from some of the leading minds like Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Paul Meyer and Darren Hardy to name a few.

To Achieve Your Goals, You Must Know Where You Are Starting.

Before you look forward you must look back and take inventory.  You must know where you are, to properly plan to move forward. Grab a notebook or journal and answer these questions about the year we are just finishing.  Be brutally honest with yourself, if need be.

What is the smartest decision you made this year?

What was your biggest disappointment last year?

What was the biggest risk you took last year?

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Are We Programmed for Mediocrity or Success

Are We Programmed For Mediocrity or Success?

I saw a video recently that made me think about how we really feel about success in our country.  Do we still look at it as something to be admired and strive for, or do we look at it with a skeptical and resentful eye?  Do we think like the late great Zig Ziglar, who said “You can have everything in life you want, IF you help enough people get what they want”, or do we think the successful took advantage of others.

I think it was Brian Tracy who said “We will never, on a consistent basis, earn more than we feel we are worth.  You will always find a way to sabotage yourself to bring your income in line with your worth.”  If that is true, which I think it is, we should really look at what our true feelings about success are and how we got them.

Take a look at pop culture, who are typically the good guys and who are usually the villains?  From movies to comic books and even many who will misquote the Bible, the villains are normally a rich and successful business man that is portrayed to hurt the people.   The hero is normally someone of meager beginnings who rise up to battle against the successful or powerful.

Perhaps the worst I have seen is this video that was produced by a California School Board.  Now they claim it wasn’t for the students, but for the teachers.  However, when you see the cartoon like way this video was done, I personally have trouble believing that.

The California School Board Video on Success

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To Achieve Your Goals You Have To “Sell Out”

THE MOST IMPORTANT SALE YOU EVER  MAKE IS YOU, ON YOUR GOALS!

Have you ever had the experience where you were completely motivated to acheive your goals, where you just seemed to be “In Flow”?  If you have, you have probably also experienced the opposite.  Those times where you seemed to be in a funk, you just can’t get motivated.  What is the difference in the two experiences?  I went through this transition a couple of years back.

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